YOU Define YOU…

Maybe this is a common one for most people – but I have always been a late bloomer who wears her heart on her sleeve… Here it is – very simple but hard at the same time. “Don’t let people define who you are.”

 It is so easy to allow how someone views you to become your view of yourself.  No one has the right to categorize you or judge you (nor do we have the right to judge or categorize them). We can’t control how other people act – but we can control how we think, how we feel, how we respond.  It seems like it should be the easiest thing in the world – but its not… 

 I realized recently that the only power people have over you is the power you allow them to have….  It got me to thinking about the Wizard of Oz.  How scared everyone was of the Wizard of Oz.  They were in awe of him, yet they were terrified at the same time… And it turned out that he was nothing but a little man trying to be a BIG wizard behind the screen.  How foolish those people would have felt had it been a real life thing.  But there are times in life when people and situations seem soooooo MUCH bigger than they are.

 How much power are you giving people?  Are they making you view yourself with their disoriented view?  Writing this I’m almost embarrassed when I think back to situations when I allowed someone else’s insecurities and wrongful attitudes to affect my view of myself.  I feel sorry for that person now.  I don’t say that in a hateful spirit.  I say that because there are times when we need to “rise above it.”  No wonder the Bible tells us to “pray for those who persecute us.” (Matthew 5:44).  I must admit that there are times when I haven’t done that. Times when the last thing I wanted to do was PRAY for someone who was hurting my feelings.  And then I had to take a long hard look at the situation and wonder WHY I was allowing myself to feel hurt?  If someone doesn’t come to you and tell you what you have done to offend them, and you have asked repeatedly – then the responsibility is no longer on your shoulders.  It is on theirs.  The Bible also says, “When you have done all you can – then simply stand.” (Ephesians 6:13).

 We live in a world where we don’t know the “fullness” of ANY ONE’S story.  As they don’t know the fullness of ours.  We don’t know what they’ve been through, what insecurities they have, where their heart is.  Only God sees the full story.  I learned a long time ago not to judge others  – because when I did, that is when my own faults became more vivid and clear and I realized that WHO am I to judge??  Only God knows each person’s heart (including our own).  Understanding this has made it easier for me to look past my own hurts… Okay, to be honest – maybe after the fact… but what really matters, is what you do with what you learn, right?

 Sometimes the situations that occur in our lives are not of our own doing – and what it does it throw us off track from what is *really* important.  Each of us has a calling, we can allow situations and people to hinder us from that calling, or we can choose to learn from it and move forward or to let it stunt our growth, our purpose and our own opinion of ourselves.